One of the cable channels was airing the movie “Bride Wars” this weekend. The 2009 comedy starred Kate Hudson and Anne Hathaway as best friends who find themselves competing for the same wedding venue, on the same date, after becoming engaged at the same time. The movie is forgettable, but for brides-to-be it provides a good reminder to take stock of what your wedding day should be about.
Bride Wars
Too often, future brides get so caught up in the planning of their wedding, that their behavior becomes alienating, unreasonable requests are made, and compromise is often overlooked. It’s not unusual for relationships with friends and family to become stressed, and feelings easily get hurt during this time. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
Your wedding day is about more than the obvious – marrying the one you love, uniting as a couple in marriage, and the joining of two families. For most brides, it’s also the only time that you will have gathered in one place so many people that mean so much to you and your soon- to-be spouse. As such, when you look back on that day, it’s not the colors you chose, the cake you selected, or the flowers you picked (as nice as they all may be) that will hold the meaning on that day. It will be the people that were there for you and your fiancé at that special moment in your life – the grandparents who were able to join you, the father who walked you down the aisle, the lifelong friends who flew to be by your side. And they want your day to be perfect for you.
So, treat them all with respect. Don’t make demanding requests. Humble yourself, if only for a second, to listen, if someone only wants their opinion to be heard. Be flexible. Keep an open mind. And, by all means, plan your dream wedding to your dream guy. Order your favorite flowers, put on that gorgeous wedding dress, treat yourself to real diamonds to look stunning on your big day. Just remember, that when it’s all said and done, that classy wedding you’ve always dreamed about begins with how you’ve treated people along the way.
